When I meet a new Messianic person, I can get a pretty good understanding of them usually within the first 10-15 minutes. You can get to know anyone pretty well by asking them a few questions and getting them to talk. That's likely why even a fool is thought wise if they learn to talk less as Proverbs says.
I am amazed at how many Messianic people I meet online who start talking about the weirdest things right off the bat...
'Are you a two house person?'
'How do you understand the name of YHWH?'
'What version of the Bible do you use? Really? Oh I use this version, it's the best because....'
'I hope your not one of those Messianics who believes...'
'Do you celebrate pagan holidays?'
'How come you are not wearing tzit tzits? Women can wear them too you know...'
'I hope you keep kosher like I do...'
-sigh- There are two kinds of people in this world, ones who form ties that bind and those who form ties that blind. There are those who seek to look for things that they have in common with others and those who try to find some point to debate about. We are called to unity friends...that does not mean uniformity but rather agreeing to disagree. Don't misunderstand me, I am not talking about peace at any cost, I am saying that our conversation should PROMOTE peace, not PROVOKE quarrels.
Talk about Yeshua, talk about His life, love and legacy. Talk about the Torah in such a way that you show others that you love His word and are passionate about it, not using it as a hammer to beat down the newbies or to impress the mature Messianics. We have a sacred duty to love our neighbour and to treat others the way we want to be treated.
I don't agree with being wishywashy and with my Christian associates, I make it plainly known when the holidays come around that I don't celebrate Christmas, Easter, Halloween, etc. I don't bash them for celebrating it and I certainly don't spam their inboxes with dozens of pamphlets explaining how 'wicked' they are if they celebrate those feasts. I strongly disagree with them keeping it but my job is to be salt and light. If I blind people with my insensitive attitude and criticsm, how can they see the light. If I singe their taste buds with my hot and spicy sauce, how will they taste the salt? We are NOT to be wishywashy but we are to be ready to give and answer to everyone who ASKS about the hope within us. When people ask questions, it usually means that they are curious and willing to hear the answer. The old saying goes, 'You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink'...the comeback is 'Nope, but you can pult salt in his oats and make him thirsty!' We are to be the salt that makes people thirsty for the living water, not the fire of judgement that burns them to a crisp. We need to stop arguing over bible versions, YHWH's name and how we keep this or that feast. If we prayed for people as much as we criticized them, we might see more change. If we prayed for others INSTEAD of criticizing them, there would be a revolution. We can't make people into 'us', we need to love them wehere they are at and gently show them the path of truth as we see it. We need to pray and ask Father to open their hearts.
I hope that we are not turning people off of the Messianic Community by our actions. YHWH forbid that people who are new to this faith should see us as arrogant. YHWH resists the proud and although we can try to fool eveyone into thinking that we are pressing our point in order to 'help' others see the truth, we are often in danger of trying to build our own ego. Humility means keeping silent sometimes even if we are the only one who has the 'right' answer...if the question is not asked, learn to wait until it is. We should share the gospel in fear and trembling...we should be moved to tears for the lost who celebrate paganism, most of us were there at one point and how quickly we forget how blindness feels.
Seek peace and pursue it, learn to love those in your community who share differing views than you. Don't be argumentative but rather seek to focus on what binds us together and ask the Father to remove the ties that blind.